Wendy E. Crane, LMFT
How do you choose to live? Do you live in fear? Do you live in awe? Do you live in the past or the future? Do you live in curiosity? Do you remember that you have the ability to choose what you focus on and how you participate in each day? Sometimes just this remembering … Read more
“We teach what me most need to learn.” This phrase has been turning over in my mind recently and seems to be calling me to write about it. Yet another beautiful gift from one of my long-standing clients. It consistently demonstrates wisdom as I see this concept play out over and over with my clients, … Read more
Personal growth is like cleaning up a house. For the purpose of this blog, the metaphor of a house is being used to describe your inner world. What is the condition of your house? Is it a total disaster with years and maybe generations of issues that have been buried deep in its recesses? Is … Read more
Personal boundaries are a frequent topic of conversation in my office. This concept is so often misunderstood and misused. As a child, depending on your family of origin, you may have lacked experience with boundaries because your family did not view each other as separate entities within a common group, but rather extensions of each … Read more
It occurred to me a few weeks ago during a particularly overwhelming week, that the pressure I was feeling was self-inflicted. It was not required or necessary for life to continue. However, many times it is only in retrospect that I come to this conclusion. After I have suffered and beaten myself up and entertained … Read more
The concept of a “clear yes/clear no” has been a consistent theme in my blogs so far. However, a few conversations in my office this week helped me to see a potential need for clarification on this point. Some of you may wonder how you can find this type of clarity in every situation that … Read more
The number one issue that couples bring into my office is the desire for “better communication.” Each one of us is a unique being and brings to our relationships an individual set of experiences, perspectives, and way of interacting. Below I have outlined the 5 most popular tools that I use when working with couples … Read more
I have a beautiful poster in my office that many people ask, “what is that a picture of?” It is a symbolic representation of the 7 primary chakras that flow from the base of your spine right up to just above the top of your head. Thanks to scientific research and the surgence of yoga … Read more
Dating After Divorce: The New 90-Day Rule Dating after divorce. This is a topic that comes up in my office frequently. After a divorce or break-up from a long-term relationship, dating can seem daunting, exciting, confusing, overwhelming, fun, and scary all at the same time. If dating is nothing else, it is certainly a trial … Read more
Tell the truth Take the risk to be vulnerable and Let your partner into your internal world Truth leads to trust Trust creates safety Safety allows for vulnerability Vulnerability leads to intimacy Intimacy is the path of true love These words spilled out after a recent personal experience where I became aware of how powerful … Read more