Couples Therapy

In every relationship, there are moments of deep connection and moments of misunderstanding, fear, and disconnection. Beneath conflict, defensiveness, or emotional distance is something far more tender: two nervous systems longing for safety, understanding, and love. Healthy relationships grow when both partners learn how to return to their own grounded center and then meet each … Read more

Every couple experiences moments when something feels “off.” A disagreement, a misunderstanding, a miscommunication, a boundary that gets crossed, or an agreement that isn’t kept can disrupt the flow between you. These moments—what I often call disturbances—are not a sign that your relationship is failing. They are a sign that you are human, in relationship, and brushing up against places that matter.

What do you do with yourself when your only child or last remaining child gets ready to leave home and then flies away from the nest? After your brief celebration of the new found freedom that comes with an empty nest and nobody but yourself to take care of, you may have other feelings that … Read more

I Forgive You, It’s Not Okay Relationships take practice. There are many dynamics that relationships help to cultivate. Forgiveness practice is one you may often struggle with. You may wonder, like most folks, if forgiveness means justifying or excusing bad behavior. It does not. You may also wonder if forgiveness is the same as an … Read more

What would happen if you chose to see all of your relationships as teachers? Maybe you already do this, or maybe this is a very new concept for you. When you begin to view relationships through this lens, all challenges and struggles become opportunities to learn, and all the joys and blessings become celebrations of … Read more

A Relationship Toolbox for the Holidays As we come into the holiday season, life can get stressful and can oftentimes take a toll on relationships. Below I have created a toolbox with some helpful phrases and tools to utilize all the time, but will be helpful to remember and come back to when you feel … Read more

Conscious Relationships are not all Rainbows, Butterflies, and Unicorns Contrary to popular belief, relationships are not here to make you happy. Conscious relationships are no exception. Relationships are here to teach and grow you. This process of developing awareness that leads to growth and healing is not always pretty or comfortable. Remember those wonderful little … Read more

Building a Conscious Relationship From the Inside Out: Embrace Your Shadows Embrace your shadows  What is a “shadow” anyway? A shadow is a part of you that is yet to be discovered. It tends to be comprised of personality traits, coping mechanisms, old inherited messages, learned family patterns, and core beliefs and decisions that served … Read more

Building a Conscious Relationship From the Inside Out: It Begins with Y.O.U. HOW DO YOU KNOW IT’S TIME FOR A CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP? “Comes the Dawn”  ~Veronica Shorffstall, 1971 After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning And company doesn’t … Read more